start with yourself

Создано 2023-05-21 · Обновлено 2023-07-11

• Work on Me First
  • Remember that the only person you can directly control is yourself.
• Focus on What You Really Want
  • When you find yourself moving toward silence or violence, stop and pay attention to your motives.
  • Ask yourself: “What does my behavior tell me about what my motives are?”
  • Then, clarify what you really want. Ask yourself: “What do I want for myself? For others? For the relationship?”
  • And finally, ask: “How would I behave if this were what I really wanted?”
• Refuse the Sucker’s Choice
  • Watch to see if you’re telling yourself that you must choose between peace and honesty, between winning and losing, and so on.
  • Clarify what you don’t want, add it to what you do want, and ask your brain to start searching for healthy options to bring you to dialogue.

Link:: Crucial Conversations

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